The holidays are almost here, and if you've recently gone through a divorce or are going through one now, you may not be sure how you're going to handle them. Fortunately, you're not alone. Many people go through this same stage every year, and you can survive it with grace and dignity.
The main thing to remember after a divorce is to be patient. There will probably be hard days where you miss your ex or are struggling to adjust to a single person's lifestyle. You might miss your friends or family on your ex's side, and it's okay to mourn those losses or to try to connect.
It's important to be flexible during the holidays for yourself and others. Holidays do happen on specific dates, but that doesn't mean that you have to celebrate them on those specific days. Talk to your loved ones about your schedule and see what you can do. If you can't make it for Christmas Day, consider celebrating Christmas the following weekend with your family instead. Being flexible makes a difference, and it takes a lot of stress off your shoulders.
After a divorce, you might not have much money to spend on others, but don't worry. Even though the holidays often seem like they require gift-giving, your presence is enough. You don't have to worry if you can't afford the most expensive gifts due to traveling or having to stay within your budget. People will understand, and you shouldn't have to explain yourself. If you do feel the need to apologize for being unable to bring something to a family affair, take the host aside and do so.
Source: Life After Divorce, "21 Tips to Survive Divorce And The Holidays," accessed Nov. 03, 2017